This ceremony is when it is time for you to release something from yourself that has an energetic cord or attachment. This could be about a relationship that has ended, a past relationship that you can’t seem to get over, or something that you are dissolving and changing in your life such as career or location. Even when physical goodbyes have been said, sometimes we just don’t feel “over it.” You might feel done with the relationship and aren’t directing any energy at it, the other person might be thinking of you (negative or positive vibes) and you still absorb their energy from the past energetic cord of the relationships (cord is energy formed during an interaction that hooks into our auric field &chakra system). Cord-cutting is something I turn to when I need to release something that is difficult and painful. Personally, when doing this for any type of relationship, I often have several ceremony sessions (4-6) to fully dissolve the connection. The reason for multiple ceremonies is that if you think of the person again you could unintentionally re-connect the cord. Even if you know it is time to end something it can be difficult to let it go and this ceremony is perfect to honor that process, let’s be honest, letting go is hard!
Carl Jung once famously said, “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” When we interact with others, it carries a deep effect, even if they are out of our life. Often, we have to grieve for our loss before we should perform a cord-cutting ceremony. I lost my childhood best friend when I was 30 years old, several years later I performed a cord-cutting, releasing childhood cords that I wanted to be transmuted. There are times when the memory of someone, something, or someplace is toxic, energetically, and spiritually.
Some say cord-cutting originates from a practice in the Hawaiian shamanism system based on forgiveness. Some of you might know the practice of Ho’oponopono mantra/practice, which is centered on forgiveness of self and others. It can be very difficult to cut cords with someone we feel has wronged us. Forgiveness is about releasing the poison that has occurred physically, emotionally, or energetically. When we hold onto hate, resentment, or fear it usually burns us, not the other person. If you don’t want to use the word forgives try “you hold no power over me”. Cord-cutting is about setting a healthy boundary in a way that doesn’t harm anyone and aids in your healing. By setting them free, you are also healing them.
- Pick the location for your ceremony. Some might use their alter/meditation space, a quiet location with privacy, or outside. I always use sage or Palo Santo for cleansing during a cord-cutting. You will need a knife or something to represent symbolically cutting. I have a selenite crystal sword (You can use anything though, a pocket knife, crystal, candle, scissors anything to represent cutting the cord). Some people like to take a black string and then use a candle to burn the string or cut it with scissors.
- Set your intention, relax deeply. Take several deep breaths and center, ground, and shield yourself with white or blue light. You can ask for God, angels, spirit guides, or Archangel Michael to protect you during this process. I like to sage around myself at this time when I’m physically cutting the cords during the ceremony but this is a personal choice, so do what feels right.
- Visualize or say the name of who/what you desire to cut cords with standing in front of you (or whatever distance feels safe to you). Try to maintain the focus on the cord that connects the two of you in your mind’s eye. Tell the person that you are grateful for their love, experience, but that you can no longer be tied to them. I like to say out loud, “Thank you for the life lessons, as difficult as they may have been. I forgive and release you in perfect love and perfect peace. I acknowledge the lessons you were a catalyst for and have gratitude for the experience.” Now symbolically cut the cord connecting you both. (I burn sage and use my selenite sword in a slow-motion to cut all cords from head to toe until I feel they are completely released).
- After the ceremony do something for you. Bring some love back into your body and energy field by dancing, going for a walk, or making tea. If you have time for yoga or a manta/meditation this is a perfect way to center yourself.